People make mistakes. My post earlier mentioning Sengir wasn't meant to be an attack (I apologize if it appeared that way). It is his own right to do what he wishes with his mod, even if people don't like it. Sometimes the best thing to do is to just forgive someone. This is one of those cases in my opinion.
Also, as for how we keep talking about the future relationship between the modders and the Dev community, perhaps Technic can acquire a few people who will solely work with modders and the community? They could keep the social interactions and permissions all neat and tidy, and make sure the modders are alright with what is going on. And when all is said and done they could talk to the other Technic Devs. and tell them how things are going or conglomerate their ideas into a solution for problems? Just an idea of course.