Geoedge1

Hi, i'm new so don't beat down on me, but anyway i have been recently having problems joining my tekkit server. The message i get is: Connection Lost Internal exception: java.net.SocketException: Connection reset Is there anyway of fixing this. If it helps any i am running 64 bit win 7 and using a verygames server to host the tekkit server. Is that the problem, if so how would i make it so the server wouldn't lag.