I actually like EE,
why you ask?
I always hated mining, but, its is minecraft.
Quarry's never seem to have anything good for me...
What i do:
I set up my factorys, from al the other mods, getting a item like...sugar cane.
I then transfer those tons of sugar cane into 1 diamond.
The only thing that makes EE realy easy is the transmutation table and the rings and such.
For a server, i would keep those out.