Lack of connection

[ObsessiveAries]

Launcher Version: 3.1.2

Operating System: Windows XP

Java Version: Java 7 update 5

Antivirus Program: VIPRE

Description of Problem:

I've been able to connect to my friend's server before the new minecraft update, that day too, even after I had updated, but since then I can't connect to even my own server. Now I can't connect to Tekkit either. She's only using the launcher and server, and I'm only using the launcher to connect to her. There have never been problems before now.

Error Messages:

Failed to connect to the server

Connection refuse: connect

Error Log:

[EzioA]

Firewall?

Minecraft has nothing to do with it, try port forwarding.

[killr 3]

does the server that you are trying to connect to have tekkit