Sorry if you misunderstood, My computer has 12gb ram in it and i'm giving the server 4gb, don't see why it would need more than that? especially on a fresh world
it really feels like it's an internet issue, there is like a 10 second delay, she tells me when she jumps and then I don't see it for ages, That being said My port forwarding on my router doesn't work so i've been using hamachi to do it, Normally on other games i don't have an issue, could there be a cause there? Like i said we played vanilla without a single problem so why would it jump up internet usage by that much