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All my time gaming, I spent much in single player till about 3 years ago. At first I was apprehensive, as I'm more of a casual gamer who doesn't try to be "the best." My first time playing in something smaller than an MMO was in Team Fortress 2. After that, I tried other games through my 360, and found myself enjoying it for the most part. Then I tried playing Minecraft on a Technic based server.
It was great at first, having others around, building things together, teaching each other ins and outs of certain mods. There was griefing, and while aggravating, we withstood it. I ended up leading a group of nearly half a dozen players in making a base of command. However, as the griefing got worse, we decided to move our now overly stuffed complex further from spawn to seem like a less choice target. After three real days of prep, myself and one other player took a few hour break before the move. Upon returning, we found everything we built destroyed. It was a shock, and we immediately contacted a Moderator. However, things went bad to worse when the Moderator blamed us for the griefing because we didn't use the protection plugins they provided. I explained that it was my first time playing a server, and I had only recently figured out how the protection worked. They didn't care, and basically spent several minutes berating us. We decided to say goodbye to that server, and left.
My next server experience wasn't much better, and a third server proved to completely turn me off of playing with others. I hate it. I want to get over it, and I want to play on a server again, but after all this, it's difficult to simply get over. Other games I play with servers don't hold the kind of investment that playing in Minecraft does, building things and gaining resources.
I guess what this boils down to is, how do I get back into multiplayer Minecraft? Just dive right back in, test the waters? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.