Have a comic.
In other wor-BRAAAAAAAAAAP-
(Sorry, I just couldn't resist. I hate that phrase. Everyone says that, then proceeds to toot horns anyways. Or the phrase, "I don't know what to tell you, kid". No-one ever stops talking there. Etc, etc.)
ANNNNNYways;
whitelisted servers = good,
small servers = good,
people who know each other = good,
searching high and low for the best servers and admins/mods = good.
Armed with this knowledge, plunge forth and go to rule the world of minecraft!