Great post, thanks for replying. However, I feel like that kind of community is mostly an illusion. Yeah, that's probably a pretty strong thing to be saying, almost like I'm completely dismissing everything you said. That's not my intent, I can understand there is a desire for casual gameplay environments. Low stress low effort places to just mess around and have fun. I get that.
My issue is that this is the case with nearly every single public server I've run into. Is that simply the nature of public servers? Catering to the least common denominator? Making a place for people who don't care to put much effort into their gameplay?
Most of these mod packs as far as I know have mods in them that facilitate travel. These are actual gameplay mods where you have to actually build things, even just vanilla Minecraft has that capability with nether hubs and portal linking and minecart tracks, etc. Sure in the beginning it's rough, but that's the point of playing. To progress, get stronger, better, faster. Obtain resources to build things and protect yourself and your friends and to help other players. If you're well established it should be no issue to go help out someone else without relying on a non-gameplay command.
I guess my point is that if you want to play the game you should actually play the game, and travel is part of the game. Typing in a command to teleport around is basically cheating, as you're circumventing gameplay to get what you want.