Either use Curse/Twitch or the vanilla client. That's pretty much your options at the moment. Maybe, very maybe, MultiMC has patched their launcher by now, but that's not a modpack launcher like most of your members will be used to.
English is fine. I see people from Murica with worse, and that's their main language.
Include a log. (Launcher Options -> Open Logs -> Today's log) Use pastebin or paste.ubuntu.com to share the log.
Go to the bin folder, remove the modpack.jar and version.json files. Add your own forge, rename it to modpack or modpack.jar and start your modpack again.
Java -> Manual download = 64 bit. Online download = 32 bits always.
And no, you do not need 12 GB for your modpack. Unless you made a 1.12.2 port of the omega pack. In which case I am questioning humanity. Again.
"Did a bunch of things". Like, it would be nice to know what you tried so far, and some basic information about your pc -> Windows? Mac? Linux? Which version? CPU? GPU? You aren't giving much to work with, not even a log (use pastebin for that).
Delete the mapwriter config that can be found in the hexxit folder -> saves -> mapwriter_mp_worlds -> YOURSERVERIP -> mapwriter.cfg. You will lose your waypoints on your minimap.